While we may disapprove of bad behavior and poor performance, we first need to communicate and help build a sense of intrinsic worth and self-esteem totally apart from comparisons and judgments.

• 尽管我们可能不赞同某人的不良行为或拙劣表现，我们还是要先与之沟通，帮助他树立完全与比较和评价无关的内在价值感和自尊感。